from a Male Bystander
helped Gaye with weddings for several years, I get a chance to be in the
background and see what all goes on, hear the different conversations, and
basically, people watch. Her job as a
Wedding Planner helps make the wedding go smoothly and some of the items below
can be avoided if you have a wedding planner. Here are some things that I’ve
gleaned as a “male” bystander.
- Be on time. The Bride is already having a
stressful weekend and she needs everyone to be on time everywhere you are
supposed to be.
- The rehearsal is just that. It’s
important to get there “Places everyone, lights camera action.” It is the dress
rehearsal for the grandest event in the couples lives so everyone owes them the
respect to get there, pay attention while there, get it done, and go on to the
- There is only so much time in a
weekend. If you try to get too many events crammed into such a short period of
time it may not work. Look for
alternative ways to see family and friends. At the same time this may be your only
chance to see people you haven’t seen in a while, so plan the weekend where you
can do that. Key Word is PLAN.
- The Panic Look when you ask,
who has the …… and you fill in the blank.
Having someone to take care of the rings, marriage license, and payments
all before the weekend will relieve some stress.
- It’s not over just because the
Bride and Groom have left. In a lot of
cases the work now begins for those left behind. The “who is taking gifts, who is cleaning up,
who is locking up, who is returning rentals” if planned in advance can allow family
and friends to not have to suffer the after wedding surprise.
- The Backup Plan: There should be reasonable options discussed
on how to handle uncooperative children, unforeseen injuries, possible no show
of an important party member a simple flat tire, or the unpredictable weather.
- Fun: Make everything fun. There are some times for serious but everyone
should want to ensure that the Bride and Groom have fun. They want you to share
stories, dance, maybe sing, and yes, catch that garter and bouquet.